Self-Love, defined as "love of self" or "regard for one's own happiness or advantage", has been conceptualised both as a basic human necessity and as a moral flaw - it is because of the fact that love of self is perceived as a flaw that we often feel we have to say yes when we in fact want to say no in fear of hurting others.
We do things that we are not entirely comfortable with for fear of being judged or not liked - when deep down our heart does not agree.
At what cost though ? ...Ultimately our aim to please and appease others causes a loss of self.
I say: Your wants and needs matter just as much as your mothers, fathers, sisters or friends wants or needs. Your voice carries equal significance to that of your spouse or life partners.
Your BREATH tells you that you are alive, your BODY tells you that you carry weight (you exist). Your MIND tells you that you have a voice and that voice matters!